Our wedding was always planned for before the idea really transpired. We had a 300 page diary that we used to exchange between the two us during our dating years. In it each of us would write whatever idea or dream came into mind regardless of costs. We would state our dream venues, the cars we wanted, marriage officer, the menu, the dress code, guest number, entertainment, etc. After the proposal and after he had done the lobola ceremony it was now just a matter of discussing and agreeing on best options